Who are you to judge?
An interesting sociological phenomenon detailed on Ynet.
When it comes to women's modesty and laws of gender separation, many of my progressive brethren (and sistren) react with a "mixture of pity and contempt". On the one hand, the covered woman "must be" uncomfortable wearing "so many" layers of clothing. On the other hand, they "must be" victims of an oppressive patriarchal society dictating how they can and can not dress. The tznua/modest woman is often forced to justify herself on two levels: "yes I am comfortable" and "yes I am dressing this way voluntarily."
A piece on Ynet sparked my interest with regard to this:
She was walking in front of me in a crowded Jaffa street, covered in black from head to toe: Shoes, socks, pants, a long dress on top, gloves (!) and of course – a veil, which revealed only a pair of black eyes.
It was steaming hot outside – over 30 degrees Celsius and terribly humid, and I immediately felt sorry for the poor woman. How hot she must be, I thought, how sweaty, how miserable it was to go through the scalding Mediterranean summer like this. And then feminist thoughts began running through my head – "How can women be oppressed this way? What a humiliation! Why doesn't she rebel against this? What a pity she's unaware of all the things she is missing out on in the world," etc. I practically couldn't take my eyes off of her.
Unfortunately this is the attitude many people take towards niqabi women. They must be stifled, and stifling, in those oh-so-hot and oh-so-oppressive veils. But then, for columnist Efrat Shapira-Rosenberg, came the flipside.
While I was busy with my progressive thoughts, I noticed that the girl walking beside me was staring at me, and I was mortified when I recognized the look in her eyes. She was looking at me in the same way I was looking at the woman in front of me. Over 30 degrees Celsius and terribly humid, she was wearing shorts and a tank top, while I was wearing a head scarf, two shirts worn one on top of the other in order to cover my arms, a long (and hot) jeans skirt, etc."How hot she must be," she was probably thinking, "How sweaty she must be, how miserable it is to go through the Mediterranean summer like this…" and this is before feminist thoughts began running through her head - "How can women be oppressed this way? What a humiliation! Why doesn't she rebel against this? What a pity she's unaware of all the things she is missing out on in the world." She practically could not take her eyes off of me.
I'm going to go a bit further than Ms. Shapira-Rosenberg.
Anyone familiar with the Orthodox world knows -- and this author is no exception -- the number of converts is growing. The number of people "returning to Judaism" (chozrei b'tshuva) is growing.
As is the number of "reverts" to Islam.
The veiled "uncomfortable" woman walking down the street in her veils and head coverings in 2007 may very well have been walking down the street in the tank top in 1997. She realized that by covering up, she was elevating herself spiritually. She realized that she was doing herself a favor by bringing herself more in line with the Divine Will (as codified in halacha/Jewish Law or shari'a/Islamic law) and not by revealing more and more skin - pushing the lines of civil statutes and regulations.
What newly religious women who decide to cover up are doing is not making themselves oppressed or uncomfortable, on the contrary, they are giving themselves a sense of inner pride and beauty that they never had before.
These women should be praised -- certainly not pitied. In my opinion, the mindset of "pity and contempt" has its roots in the media.
Paris Hilton and Lindsey Lohan and Britney -- these women represent that which millions of girls diet and fast to achieve: the unabashed party girl who can do "whatever she pleases". Revealing 90% of one's epidermis, saying whatever, whenever, wherever (Shakira lyrics anyone?): this for some reason represents the pinnacle of the exercise of free choice.
Except that Britney lost her mind.
Paris Hilton is in jail.
Lindsey Lohan -- wasn't she getting high?
And the niqabi and the tznua walk along, silently elevating themselves and unaffected by these paradigms. They remain largely un-anorexic, and, when asked, report a very high level of personal satisfaction.
Ken yirbu and may women who become religious and seek their own spiritual fulfillment in defiance of societal "norms" be appreciated for being what they are.
Strong, independent women, revolutionary -- and in the deepest sense of the word, quite feminist.
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